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When you find yourself wanting to relax what do you end up doing?

Over the years I've found myself doing tai chi, meditation, swimming, going for a walk, listening to slow gentle music and a whole host of other things. In the last few days I've recently started doing early morning yoga practice again. Some times that I've done these things I've not really wanted to relax! In other words, the mind didn't allow it in that moment. The 'problem' as I see it is that often we think a relaxation opportunity is really a relaxation 'switch', and when we find out it doesn't always work we get confused and start seeking other 'switches' or over practising.

In truth there are no such switches for the mind and nothing to really switch on or off.

I'm pretty black and white about the inside-out understanding but let me be clear: there's nothing wrong with doing things 'to calm you down', all the while knowing that it isn't the 'thing' that calms your thinking, and let's face it - being relaxed isn't always what's needed. Maybe, in this moment, it's just your mind's moment to be anxious for a short while. Or depressed. Maybe it even lasts for a longer while. Maybe sadness is what comes up. Perhaps anger surfaces. But like all states of mind - it is transient if it is not resisted.

There's no need to use 'relaxation techniques' as a way of eradicating unpleasant states of mind - that simply cannot be done. That said, there may be an important place for these activities in your life. They can provide a space. An opportunity. In truth, no more of an opportunity than any other time, but perhaps the one you want in your life. This is one of the reasons I recently returned to my yoga practice - to benefit the body, but also to ring-fence some time each day to look in the direction of wellbeing. Not some time to 'practise' it, because wellbeing never leaves, but to look within.

The calming mind is the only true source of relaxation. Whenever we fall out of the illusion of the separate self. Whenever we drop the illusion that the separate self (unique identity, personality, body, name, or story) is who we are. The illusion of the separate self creates mental effort, separation, struggle, 'problems'. The true self is oneness, inspiration, creation, meditation, love, acceptance, and gratitude.The more understanding of how the mind works, the more of yourself you discover.

Much love.



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